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1. Try reading for a set amount of time each day.
If you read for 30 minutes every day, that’s 3.5 hours a week, which is enough to finish a book every two to four weeks. Depending on what you choose to read, that’s 12 to 24 books completed in a year!

2. Practice swapping “sorry” for “thank you” when the situation is right
I used to (and still do) have a problem with over-apologizing in basically every situation even when a serious apology isn’t needed. When you get into this kind of habit, it may seem reactive to just apologize for everything you do to try to please other people. It can affect your confidence and also degrade the way other people view you because you become the person who’s sorry for everything.
So, I’ve tried to consciously use ‘thank you’ to change that. Every time I get into a situation or catch myself about to say I’m sorry for something (that really doesn’t warrant a heartfelt apology), I look for a reason to say thank you instead. Running late for work? Say ‘thanks for your patience’ instead of ‘sorry I’m late.’ Not only does this keep you from looking like a sad sack for apologizing all the time, it actually shifts focus onto the person you’re apologizing to.

3. Don’t just put things down, put them away
Wise words from my mates grandma “Don’t put it down, put it away”.
So much of the mess around my apartment was down to me leaving things out instead of taking the extra minute to put them away in their correct place.
I’m not perfect but it has helped!!

4. And do your dishes every single day
Dishes, do your goddamn dishes every day and you wont feel fucked up every 2 weeks with a pile of them.

5. If something’s going to take you less than two minutes, just do it then and there
Live by the rule: if something takes 2 minutes or less to accomplish, just do it.
You’ll notice how many things are really not that bad, but also how much accomplishing things is just a mental block.

6. Try to go to bed and get up at similar times each day
Recovering insomniac here. Ensuring consistency in your sleep/rise times is one of the most important parts of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBTI). Makes waaaaay more of a difference than you’d first think.

7. Actually start flossing your teeth every day
Honestly the sense of satisfaction when you answer “yes” to the dentist about flossing daily after a lifetime of the guilty “no” is well worth it.
Plus my mouth feels pretty decent now.

8. Put all of your spare change into a jar for an entire year
Put all your spare change in a jar

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9. Make a plan for the following day before you go to bed at night
Plan the next day before going to bed at night and write a ‘to do list’. The next day before repeating the process review your to-do list. Sounds really simple, but it’s a real procrastination buster.

10. Practice a new kind of handwriting like cursive or calligraphy
Practice from a cursive chart found online, until you reach typing-like speeds, then integrate as many of the techniques and forms as you can into your printed handwriting. You don’t need to know cursive these days, but you’re not learning cursive (well, you are, obviously, but it’s not the end goal), you’re learning how to write quickly and fluidly, where and how to place extra lines for aesthetic reasons when needed, and where to start and end your strokes. If you’re tired of your handwriting looking like a 6 year old’s, which it has ever since you learned a combination of imitating Times New Roman and scrawling down your best impression of what your 1st grade teacher showed you, learn cursive. You may never use cursive again, but your printed handwriting will become Christmas card worthy, and 2-3x as fast.

11. Learn three words in a new language every day
For me that would be learn 3 words in Spanish everyday. Started this a month ago and I am getting better! 🙂

12. Get into the habit of writing in a journal daily
It is cliche but it works. I used to do it, but when I felt like my life was on track I just stopped. It led to me falling into a lot of bad habits and being able to convince myself I was fine. Drinking, smoking, video games — I fell into a mindless state that led to serious dissociation and memory issues.
But keeping a journal has a way of keeping you honest with yourself. You aren’t writing for anyone else. You aren’t trying to present your best self. You can just work through your thoughts honestly and openly. You can reflect in a way that you otherwise wouldn’t. You can just let it all out without worrying what that exposure and vulnerability will mean. It really helps. I’d recommend this to everyone, especially people with anxiety.

13. Run for as long as you can…and then run again the next day, and the next
Running. Get a good pair of running shoes and take off! You would be surprised how easy it is to run a 5k after a few weeks.

14. Make your bed every morning before you leave the house
It’s the best thing to come home to. It almost feels like someone else made my bed, like I have a servant — except the servant was a very sleepy me that doesn’t remember making their bed. It looks nice, makes me happy, and I feel good.

15. Add new and healthy foods to your diet rather than focusing on removing other food groups
Instead of taking away something from your diet, add something healthy each month. In January, add an apple a day. In February, add a handful of plain almonds each day. In March, add one extra glass of water, and so on. You won’t feel deprived, and you will increase your healthy habits painlessly.

16. And try meditating, starting with just five minutes a day
Meditate 5 mins a day. Then work yourself up to 20 min a day. It is the biggest change I have made in my life. It is incredible how crazy and out of control our minds are. And as the old saying goes,”If you don’t have 20 minute to sit, you should sit for an hour.”

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7 Habits That Are Hindering Your Happiness And How To Stop Doing Them



Do you ever feel like your happiness is ebbing away as the day progresses? Or do you ever catch yourself continuously doing things that ultimately make you deeply unhappy? Well it’s time to put your “nope” hat on and start retaining your happiness! Here are the top seven small happiness stealing habits from Henrik Edberg of The Positivity Blog:

“Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy.”
Wayne Dyer

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

It is usually pretty easy to become a happier person.

It is also quite easy to rob yourself of your own happiness. To make yourself more miserable and add a big bowl of suffering to your day. It is common thing, people do it every day all over the world.

So today I’d like to combine these two things. I’d like to share 7 happiness stealing habits that I have had quite a bit of trouble with in my own daily life (and I know from all the emails I get that many of you do too).

But I’d also like to add what you can do instead if you find yourself being stuck in one of these destructive habits.

1. Going for daily swim in a sea of negative voices.

This one can be quite subtle.

You just go around in your daily life like you usually do. Hang out with the same people. Listen to the same podcasts or radio shows, watch the same old TV-shows and read the usual blogs, books and magazines.

But what influence do these things have over your thinking and the limits you set for yourself and what you feel you deserve in life?

What to do instead:

Make a list of the 5 people you hang out with the most and the 5 media sources you spend most time on during your week.

Then ask yourself this for each of these 10 things/people: is this one dragging me down or lifting me up in life?

Consider spending less time with the ones that drag you down (or cut them out completely) and to spend more of your time with the people and sources that lift you up and make you feel good, motivated etc.

If you have trouble getting started with this one, then go smaller. Take a few minutes to think about what one person or source that has the biggest negative impact on you. And how you can start to spend less time with it/him/her this week.

2. Waiting for just the right time.

When you have a dream then it is so easy to get lost in planning how you will accomplish it. To drift away in daydreams about how it will be. But also to get stuck in fears about failing with it.

So you make a common choice and wait – and wait and wait for maybe years – for just the right time to take action and get started with making that dream into something real.

What to do instead:

Sure, not every dream is something you can get started with right now. But there are many that you can get going with. Dreams that only fear is holding you back from.

So make things easy on yourself. You don’t have to dive in a big and extremely courageous jump. If that was the case then only the bravest people in the world would do and achieve what they want.

Instead, take a small step forward. Take one small action. That is it. Then tomorrow you can take another small step forward. The important thing is that you get started and get going instead spending so much time on just waiting and feeling more and more frustrated and unhappy about the state of your dreams.

3. Letting criticism get under your skin time and time again.

When someone criticizes or verbally attacks you then it may just roll off you like water of the back of a duck.

But if it on the other hand gets under your skin pretty much every time and drags you down into hours or days or self-doubt or self-beatings then you have a problem.

What to do instead:

  • Let it out. Talk it over with someone close to you to let the inner tensions out. And to find a healthier perspective on what happened together.
  • Remember: it is not always about you. If your self-esteem is low them it is easy to start thinking that all the negative things people tell you are your fault in some way. That is however often not the case. People will attack or harshly criticize to let their own steam out. Because they have had an awful day, week or simply do not like their lives that much. So don’t think it is all about you. There are two of you in this situation.

4. Focusing on the wrong people and getting lost in envy and powerlessness.

When you spend much time in your day thinking about what other people have and do and you compare your life to theirs then you have a good recipe for unhappiness.

Because you spend the attention and energy in the wrong place.

What to do instead:

Focus on you. Compare yourself to yourself. See how far you have come. The obstacles you have overcome. How you have improved in small or sometimes bigger ways. Appreciate that and yourself.

Focus not on what others have but on what YOU deep down want in your life.

And ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with this goal/dream?

Keep your focus on yourself and what you can actually do to raise your self-confidence, to start walking on your own path and to spend your limited daily time and energy on something that will actually pay off.

5. Not allowing yourself times of peace and rest during your day.

When you are busy, busy, busy all the time and give yourself no time to recharge then you soon become fatigued.

And so each step and each thing you do start to feel heavier and you do not get much enjoyment at all out of pushing and pulling yourself through it.

What to do instead:

  • Take a break every hour. Try setting the timer on your cell phone for 45 minutes. During that time-period just focus on doing your most important task at the moment. Then, as the bell rings, set the timer for 15 minutes and step away from your workspace. Have a snack, talk a walk or stretch a bit. By cycling rest and fully focused work like this you’ll get more things done, do a better job and it will be easier to keep the optimism and motivation up.
  • Be 10 minutes early. Transform those traveling times during your day into relaxing breaks instead of passages of time and space that only increase your stress levels and other negative feelings.

6. Never trying anything new.

This one can be sneaky.

It can make you think that things are pretty OK. You have your safe and comfortable routine. I know, I have been there for long stretches of time.

But during those times there was also denial of feeling dissatisfied. A vague feeling of standing still that sometimes bloomed up into a big burst of undefined, negative feelings directed towards the world or myself.

What to do instead:

  • Remind yourself of the past times when you tried something new. And how you most often did not regret it one bit but had an exciting, interesting or fun time.
  • Go small. You don’t have to try skydiving. Just take one small step and try some new and different music, a movie or book you would normally not go for or the vegetarian dish if you usually have the beef or sausage for lunch.
  • Say yes just once this week when your mind says no. If a friend invites you to go out running, doing yoga or to go fishing or to a party and your mind goes “let’s say no, that is not what I usually do” then stop yourself for a second. And reconsider. You don’t have to say yes to every suggestion you get this week to try something new, but give it a shot and say yes to just one of those things.

7. Taking things too seriously.

When you take life too seriously then it is easy to become so afraid of making a mistake of stumbling a bit that you get paralyzed in analysis.

When you take yourself too seriously then, in my experience, it becomes difficult to fully enjoy the moment and what is happening, to let go of the past and to laugh about yourself and life when you need it the most.

What to instead:

  • Put up a reminder. When I wanted to develop a lighter mindset quite a few years ago one thing that helped me was a simple note on fridge that said: Lighten Up! This reminder helped me to snap out of overly serious thoughts several times a day until this way of finding a lighter perspective became more and more of an automatic thought habit.
  • Surround yourself with lighter mindsets. As mentioned in the section about habit #1, what and who you surround yourself with will have a big effect on how you think. No matter if it is a positive or negative aspect they add. So one powerful thing to do is to add lighter mindsets via people, books, the internet etc. to your daily life.
  • Raise your self-esteem. I have found that as my self-esteem has gone up I can laugh about myself more because I am less defensive. I have more trust in myself and so I fear a temporary failure less. And I like myself more and so I am less concerned about getting everyone else to like me all the time.

Henrik Edberg lives on the west coast of Sweden and for close to 8 years he has been writing about self-confidence and living a less stressful life at The Positivity Blog.

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16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School

by Henrik Edberg

I am 28 now. I don’t think about the past or regret things much these days.

But sometimes I wish that I had known some of things I have learned over the last few years a bit earlier. That perhaps there had been a self-improvement class in school. And in some ways there probably was.

Because some of these 16 things in this article a teacher probably spoke about in class. But I forgot about them or didn’t pay attention.

Some of it would probably not have stuck in my mind anyway. Or just been too far outside my reality at the time for me to accept and use.

But I still think that taking a few hours from all those German language classes and use them for some personal development classes would have been a good idea. Perhaps for just an hour a week in high school. It would probably be useful for many students and on a larger scale quite helpful for society in general.

So here are 16 things I wish they had taught me in school (or I just would like to have known about earlier).

  1. The 80/20 rule.

This is one of the best ways to make better use of your time. The 80/20 rule – also known as The Pareto Principle – basically says that 80 percent of the value you will receive will come from 20 percent of your activities.

So a lot of what you do is probably not as useful or even necessary to do as you may think.

You can just drop – or vastly decrease the time you spend on – a whole bunch of things.

And if you do that you will have more time and energy to spend on those things that really brings your value, happiness, fulfilment and so on.

  1. Parkinson’s Law.

You can do things quicker than you think. This law says that a task will expand in time and seeming complexity depending on the time you set aside for it. For instance, if you say to yourself that you’ll come up with a solution within a week then the problem will seem to grow more difficult and you’ll spend more and more time trying to come up with a solution.

So focus your time on finding solutions. Then just give yourself an hour (instead of the whole day) or the day (instead of the whole week) to solve the problem. This will force your mind to focus on solutions and action.

The result may not be exactly as perfect as if you had spent a week on the task, but as mentioned in the previous point, 80 percent of the value will come from 20 percent of the activities anyway. Or you may wind up with a better result because you haven’t overcomplicated or overpolished things. This will help you to get things done faster, to improve your ability to focus and give you more free time where you can totally focus on what’s in front of you instead of having some looming task creating stress in the back of your mind.

  1. Batching.

Boring or routine tasks can create a lot of procrastination and low-level anxiety. One good way to get these things done quickly is to batch them. This means that you do them all in row. You will be able to do them quicker because there is less start-up time compared to if you spread them out. And when you are batching you become fully engaged in the tasks and more focused.

A batch of things to do in an hour today may look like this: Clean your desk / answer today’s emails / do the dishes / make three calls / write a grocery shopping list for tomorrow.

  1. First, give value. Then, get value. Not the other way around.

This is a bit of a counter-intuitive thing. There is often an idea that someone should give us something or do something for us before we give back. The problem is just that a lot of people think that way. And so far less than possible is given either way.

If you want to increase the value you receive (money, love, kindness, opportunities etc.) you have to increase the value you give. Because over time you pretty much get what you give. It would perhaps be nice to get something for nothing. But that seldom happens.

  1. Be proactive. Not reactive.

This one ties into the last point. If everyone is reactive then very little will get done. You could sit and wait and hope for someone else to do something. And that happens pretty often, but it can take a lot of time before it happens.

A more useful and beneficial way is to be proactive, to simply be the one to take the first practical action and get the ball rolling. This not only saves you a lot of waiting, but is also more pleasurable since you feel like you have the power over your life. Instead of feeling like you are run by a bunch of random outside forces.

  1. Mistakes and failures are good.

When you are young you just try things and fail until you learn. As you grow a bit older, you learn from – for example – school to not make mistakes. And you try less and less things.

This may cause you to stop being proactive and to fall into a habit of being reactive, of waiting for someone else to do something. I mean, what if you actually tried something and failed? Perhaps people would laugh at you?

Perhaps they would. But when you experience that you soon realize that it is seldom the end of the world. And a lot of the time people don’t care that much. They have their own challenges and lives to worry about.

And success in life often comes from not giving up despite mistakes and failure. It comes from being persistent.

When you first learn to ride your bike you may fall over and over. Bruise a knee and cry a bit. But you get up, brush yourself off and get on the saddle again. And eventually you learn how to ride a bike. If you can just reconnect to your 5 year old self and do things that way – instead of giving up after a try/failure or two as grown-ups often do -you would probably experience a lot more interesting things, learn valuable lessons and have quite a bit more success.

  1. Don’t beat yourself up.

Why do people give up after just few mistakes or failures? Well, I think one big reason is because they beat themselves up way too much. But it’s a kinda pointless habit. It only creates additional and unnecessary pain inside you and wastes your precious time. It’s best to try to drop this habit as much as you can.

  1. Assume rapport.

Meeting new people is fun. But it can also induce nervousness. We all want to make a good first impression and not get stuck in an awkward conversation.

The best way to do this that I have found so far is to assume rapport. This means that you simply pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction in that frame of mind instead of the nervous one.

This works surprisingly well. You can read more about it in How to Have Less Awkward Conversations: Assuming Rapport.

  1. Use your reticular activation system to your advantage.

I learned about the organs and the inner workings of the body in class but nobody told me about the reticular activation system. And that’s a shame, because this is one of the most powerful things you can learn about. What this focus system, this R.A.S, in your mind does is to allow you to see in your surroundings what you focus your thoughts on. It pretty much always helps you to find what you are looking for.

So you really need to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. And keep that focus steady.

Setting goals and reviewing them frequently is one way to keep your focus on what’s important and to help you take action that will move your closer to toward where you want to go. Another way is just to use external reminders such as pieces of paper where you can, for instance, write down a few things from this post like “Give value” or “Assume rapport”. And then you can put those pieces of paper on your fridge, bathroom mirror etc.

  1. Your attitude changes your reality.

We have all heard that you should keep a positive attitude or perhaps that “you need to change your attitude!”. That is a nice piece of advice I suppose, but without any more reasons to do it is very easy to just brush such suggestions off and continue using your old attitude.

But the thing that I’ve discovered the last few years is that if you change your attitude, you actually change your reality. When you for instance use a positive attitude instead of a negative one you start to see things and viewpoints that were invisible to you before. You may think to yourself “why haven’t I thought about things this way before?”.

When you change your attitude you change what you focus on. And all things in your world can now be seen in a different light.

This is of course very similar to the previous tip but I wanted to give this one some space. Because changing your attitude can create an insane change in your world. It might not look like it if you just think about it though. Pessimism might seem like realism. But that is mostly because your R.A.S is tuned into seeing all the negative things you want to see. And that makes you “right” a lot of the time. And perhaps that is what you want. On the other hand, there are more fun things than being right all the time.

If you try changing your attitude for real – instead of analysing such a concept in your mind – you’ll be surprised.

You may want to read more about this topic in Take the Positivity Challenge!

  1. Gratitude is a simple way to make yourself feel happy.

Sure, I was probably told that I should be grateful. Perhaps because it was the right thing to do or just something I should do. But if someone had said that feeling grateful about things for minute or two is a great way to turn a negative mood into a happy one I would probably have practised gratitude more. It is also a good tool for keeping your attitude up and focusing on the right things. And to make other people happy. Which tends to make you even happier, since emotions are contagious.

  1. Don’t compare yourself to others.

The ego wants to compare. It wants to find reasons for you to feel good about yourself (“I’ve got a new bike!”). But by doing that it also becomes very hard to not compare yourself to others who have more than you (“Oh no, Bill has bought an even nicer bike!”). And so you don’t feel so good about yourself once again. If you compare yourself to others you let the world around control how you feel about yourself. It always becomes a rollercoaster of emotions.

A more useful way is to compare yourself to yourself. To look at how far you have come, what you have accomplished and how you have grown. It may not sound like that much fun but in the long run it brings a lot more inner stillness, personal power and positive feelings.

  1. 80-90% of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.

This is a big one. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.

This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.

  1. Don’t take things too seriously.

It’s very easy to get wrapped up in things. But most of the things you worry about never come into reality. And what may seem like a big problem right now you may not even remember in three years.

Taking yourself, your thoughts and your emotions too seriously often just seems to lead to more unnecessary suffering. So relax a little more and lighten up a bit. It can do wonders for your mood and as an extension of that; your life.

  1. Write everything down.

If your memory is anything like mine then it’s like a leaking bucket. Many of your good or great ideas may be lost forever if you don’t make a habit of writing things down. This is also a good way to keep your focus on what you want. Read more about it in Why You Should Write Things Down.

  1. There are opportunities in just about every experience.

In pretty much any experience there are always things that you can learn from it and things within the experience that can help you to grow. Negative experiences, mistakes and failure can sometimes be even better than a success because it teaches you something totally new, something that another success could never teach you.

Whenever you have a “negative experience” ask yourself: where is the opportunity in this? What is good about this situation? One negative experience can – with time – help you create many very positive experiences.

What do you wish someone had told you in school or you had just learned earlier in life?

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  • Steph SuarezLink
  • this is sounds alot like kabbalah!
  • Oduyemi AdesayoLink
  • This is really good, i think every body needs to know about this
  • Justin PopovicLink
  • Awesome post. #3 about Batching is a huge one for me. I always give myself way more tasks than I can complete in a reasonable amount of time so the annoying small tasks pile up until I can batch them.
  • But batching works so well. It reminds me of when I was 19 and I worked in a cement packing factory. For one week, I had this job to cut the dark filler material that goes between sidewalk slabs to prevent the cement from cracking. It was actually a very complicated process at first. The first hour or so I was barely able to accomplish anything. But it was a repetitive job. Soon, I kind of got into a rhythm and I became very very good at this job (despite the fact that I HATED it and wanted out of there lol). The point is, when you batch the annoying small jobs, you can work yourself into a rhythm and get it done way quicker than you had built it up in your head.
  • sara432Link
  • thanx alot for that life changing article >>>.
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  • This is really special. But what is it that we are all trying to become more effective at?
  • Saving the earth?
    Feeding the hungry children?
    Stopping wars?
  • KaoriLink
  • This makes so much sense and has really made me re-think what I am doing and how I am doing things. A lot of these self-help books I find are filled with advice that doesn’t seem relevant or are glib and skim over things because they think it’s what people want to hear. But this is great, practical advice.
  • Much appreciated! Thank you
  • organic greenLink
  • 9,6, and 3 are my faves right now. Number 2 is pretty useful. I wish they had taught me in high school that I’m going to forget all this, even the sweetest experiences. And, all I’ll take with me is the joy that came from as many moments as I had re-discovering love, fun, and harmony.

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How to increase concentration

Exercises that can increase your concentration

Before starting the practice, make sure you practice one at a time. Do not proceed to the next before mastering the previous one. There is no set time table for practicing these exercises. Mastering the exercises fully may take days, weeks or even months. Put your whole attention in what you do. Do not over do anything. Take time to master each exercise fully.

If you find it difficult with more distractions stop your exercises and start from the beginning again. Everyone meets difficulties along the way. With your willingness one can overcome the difficulties and distractions.

Before starting the exercises, make sure you find a comfortable place to sit either on ground or on chair. The spine should be erect in alignment with the neck. Mentally relax your body right from toes to head. Relax if there is any stiffness in any parts of your body. This is the first step.

Exercise 1

  • Take a book and at random choose a page. Start counting the letters in any paragraph. Initially start counting with fingers over the letters. Choose any one paragraph. When you master counting the letters, start counting the words.
  • Practice to count without pointing the fingers over the page
  • After a few times practice with two paragraphs

Exercise 2

  • After mastering the first exercise start practicing the second one.
  • Close your eyes gently in the same relaxed sitting posture.
  • Behind the closed eyes start counting backwards from 100 to 1. Make sure you give enough pauses between each number.

Exercise 3

  • Choose any word or just a sound and repeat it in mind silently for five minutes.
  • When your mind can concentrate more easily repeat for 10 minutes of uninterrupted concentration.

Exercise 4

  • Take a paper and draw a square, circle or triangle of your choice and colour it.
  • Keep the drawing in front of you and just focus on the drawing on all sides without any thoughts attached to it.
  • Just watch your drawing. Keep your attention only on the drawing. Make sure you dont strain your eyes.

Exercise 5

  • Once you master exercise 4, visualize your drawing with closed eyes.
  • If you forget the figure after some time, open your eyes and have a look at the figure and then repeat the exercise again.

Exercise 6

  • If you have mastered all the above, try and focus on your breathe without any thoughts atleast for five minutes.

Consistent practice is the secret of success. The more time you devote the faster you progress. Start with five minutes. Once your ability increases then the time can be increased. Do not be in a hasty to do the exercises. Once you start seeing the results, you will start loving the exercises and concentrate more effortlessly.

After mastering the exercises, you will find your mind to be more relaxed and calm. People, situations and events once triggered you will not disturb you anymore. You will experience happiness and contentment. Self-confidence will improve. You will be able to cope more easily and efficiently with the outside world.

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Ted talks

10 Insanely Inspirational TED Talks

In need of a little inspiration this week? TED Talks are more than informative, educational speeches. There are some highly inspirational ones, too.

1. A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit (Judson Brewer)

A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit (Judson Brewer)

Pay attention to how many times you click over to another tab while reading the rest of this article.

According to Judson Brewer, you’re probably not going to make it more than halfway through this list without getting distracted. That’s because you’ve developed a habit—a trigger, behavior and reward—of needing to check your email or Facebook feed to feed your short attention span.

Brewer’s talk uses the brain’s evolutionary means of forming a habit to teach you how to turn around and break it.

2. Keep Your Goals to Yourself (Derek Sivers)

Keep Your Goals to Yourself (Derek Sivers)

Research revels some bad news for those who tend to rush straight to their friends the moment they have a new goal.

It turns out that those who voice their goals to those around them are much less likely to achieve them. Psychologically, if you have a goal and seek satisfaction in telling someone else, your brain thinks you’ve already crossed it off your bucket list.

Sivers explains the psychology behind why telling someone your goal is a bad idea, contrary to popular belief.

3. The Puzzle of Motivation (Dan Pink)

The Puzzle of Motivation (Dan Pink)

When you’re given a task and a deadline by which that task must be completed, how do you motivate yourself to start working?

Multiple research studies have looked deeper into the concept behind why we do what we do and what convinces us to do it. In reality, the things we think are enough to incentivize us don’t work at all.

Pink’s talk tackles the concept of motivation, and shows us how we can use a little science to teach ourselves to be more productive.

4. How Frustration Can Make Us More Creative (Tim Harford)

How Frustration Can Make Us More Creative (Tim Harford)

You may have never noticed that the realization that a problem needs solving rarely dawns on you until you’re too frustrated to continue going on the way things are.

Harford, in this talk, tells the story of how a pianist, disappointed with the instrument he was expected to use to entertain a concert hall’s worth of an audience, managed to create musical magic by creating something new out of something barely usable.

It is the moment you are convinced you cannot change your surroundings when you realize you are the only one who can.

5. 7 Rules for Making More Happiness (Stefan Sagmeister)

7 Rules for Making More Happiness (Stefan Sagmeister)

If you have ever blamed your circumstances or your environment for your level of happiness, you are not alone.

Surveys have found many surprising reasons for how happy or unhappy we are throughout our lives. Things like gender and climate don’t affect happiness as much as meaningful relationships do, for example.

In his talk, Sagmeister lays out the ideal design for a happier life, perfect for those searching for joy wherever they are.

6. Your Elusive Creative Genius (Elizabeth Gilbert)

Your Elusive Creative Genius (Elizabeth Gilbert)

Success is tricky. When you work hard to achieve something, and you achieve it, you are forced to think: “Well. What next?”

The author of international bestseller Eat, Pray, Love never expected her work to grow into the sensation it became. That alone caused her to rethink her entire career, to question whether she would continue to engage in her creative endeavors even if she never published anything else as widely successful again.

Gilbert brings up the question of whether fear and suffering is a necessary sacrifice for choosing a life steered by creative thinking.

7. Be An Opportunity Maker (Kare Anderson)

Be An Opportunity Maker (Kare Anderson)

How often do you seek out someone you don’t think you have anything in common with, so the two of you can work together to achieve a common goal?

Anderson, who grew up shy and not speaking nearly as often as observing others communicate with their words, learned at a young age that people like to talk a lot … about themselves. They like to talk about their accomplishments. Things they have achieved without help.

This talk tosses around the idea that when we come together and exchange words, words that lead to actions that will help other people instead of ourselves, we can accomplish extraordinary things.

8. How Great Leaders Inspire Action (Simon Sinek)

How Great Leaders Inspire Action (Simon Sinek)

Why do some people, even those who seem to share so many of the same qualities as those around them, achieve so much more than others?

Sinek has a theory that people and organizations who are much more innovative and successful than others have something very important in common with one another—something they do not have in common with the less innovative, successful people of the world.

His talk uses this theory to show you what it takes to be the kind of leader that can motivate and inspire change all around you.

9. Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling (Emilie Wapnick)

Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling (Emilie Wapnick)

Are you “one of those people”? One of those people who can’t figure out what to do with your life … because you want to do everything?

Emile Wapnick used to hate being asked what she wanted to be when she grew up. Not because she didn’t know her interests, but because she had too many. There wasn’t a subject in school she didn’t like. She loved working with computers. She was in a rock band as a teenager.

She didn’t want to be just one thing. She figured out you don’t have to.

Her talk looks deeper into what it means to want to be challenged and fulfilled throughout our lives. We don’t have to be one thing. We don’t have to choose one true calling.

10. The Danger of Hiding Who You Are (Morgana Bailey)

The Danger of Hiding Who You Are (Morgana Bailey)

It turns out that labels, especially when it comes to categorizing people, are much more dangerous than you once thought.

Bailey, an outgoing, carefree student, one day fell prey to the notion that she needed the façade of acceptance more than she needed her pride in individuality. She realized that hiding who you are is a habit that surfaces only when you let yourself believe everyone else’s way is better than your way.

In her talk, Bailey explores the value of identity, and what happens to us when we try to hide the most unique and definitive portions of ourselves.

Do something that inspires you today. Do something that inspires someone else, too.

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For Latex Refer


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Latex in Fedora

First you’ll need to Install it:

  • If you’re using a distro which packages LaTeX (almost all will do) then look for texlive or tetex. TeX Live is the newer of the two, and is replacing tetex on most distributions now.

    If you’re using Debian or Ubuntu, something like:

    apt-get install texlive

    ..will get it installed.

    RedHat or CentOS need:

    yum install tetex

Next you’ll need to get a text editor. Any editor will do, so whatever you are comfortable with. You’ll find that advanced editors like Emacs (and vim) add a lot of functionality and so will help with ensuring that your syntax is correct before you try and build your document output.

Create a file called test.tex and put some content in it, say the example from the LaTeX primer:


The foundations of the rigorous study of \emph{analysis}
were laid in the nineteenth century, notably by the
mathematicians Cauchy and Weierstrass. Central to the
study of this subject are the formal definitions of
\emph{limits} and \emph{continuity}.

Let $D$ be a subset of $\bf R$ and let
$f \colon D \to \mathbf{R}$ be a real-valued function on
$D$. The function $f$ is said to be \emph{continuous} on
$D$ if, for all $\epsilon > 0$ and for all $x \in D$,
there exists some $\delta > 0$ (which may depend on $x$)
such that if $y \in D$ satisfies
\[ |y - x| < \delta \]
\[ |f(y) - f(x)| < \epsilon. \]

One may readily verify that if $f$ and $g$ are continuous
functions on $D$ then the functions $f+g$, $f-g$ and
$f.g$ are continuous. If in addition $g$ is everywhere
non-zero then $f/g$ is continuous.


Once you’ve got this file you’ll need to run latex on it to produce some output (as a .dvi file to start with, which is possible to convert to many other formats):

latex test.tex

This will print a bunch of output, something like this:

=> latex test.tex

This is pdfeTeX, Version 3.141592-1.21a-2.2 (Web2C 7.5.4)
entering extended mode
LaTeX2e &lt;2003/12/01&gt;
Babel &lt;v3.8d&gt; and hyphenation patterns for american, french, german, ngerman, b
ahasa, basque, bulgarian, catalan, croatian, czech, danish, dutch, esperanto, e
stonian, finnish, greek, icelandic, irish, italian, latin, magyar, norsk, polis
h, portuges, romanian, russian, serbian, slovak, slovene, spanish, swedish, tur
kish, ukrainian, nohyphenation, loaded.
Document Class: article 2004/02/16 v1.4f Standard LaTeX document class
No file test.aux.
[1] (./test.aux) )
Output written on test.dvi (1 page, 1508 bytes).
Transcript written on test.log.

..don’t worry about most of this output — the important part is the Output written on test.dvi line, which says that it was successful.

Now you need to view the output file with xdvi:

xdvi test.dvi &

This will pop up a window with the beautifully formatted output in it. Hit `q’ to quit this, or you can leave it open and it will automatically update when the test.dvi file is modified (so whenever you run latex to update the output).

To produce a PDF of this you simply run pdflatex instead of latex:

pdflatex test.tex

..and you’ll have a test.pdf file created instead of the test.dvi file.

After this is all working fine, I would suggest going to the the LaTeX primer page and running through the items on there as you need features for documents you want to write.

Future things to consider include:

  • Use tools such as xfig or dia to create diagrams. These can be easily inserted into your documents in a variety of formats. Note that if you are creating PDFs then you shouldn’t use EPS (encapsulated postscript) for images — use pdf exported from your diagram editor if possible, or you can use the epstopdf package to automatically convert from (e)ps to pdf for figures included with \includegraphics.
  • Start using version control on your documents. This seems excessive at first, but being able to go back and look at earlier versions when you are writing something large can be extremely useful.
  • Use make to run latex for you. When you start on having bibliographies, images and other more complex uses of latex you’ll find that you need to run it over multiple files or multiple times (the first time updates the references, and the second puts references into the document, so they can be out-of-date unless you run latex twice…). Abstracting this into a makefile can save a lot of time and effort.
  • Use a better editor. Something like Emacs + AUCTeX is highly competent. This is of course a highly subjective subject, so I’ll leave it at that (that and that Emacs is clearly the best option 🙂
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Good advice; concrete is always better than vague. I’d remove the latex-dvi path entirely and just mention pdflatex to a beginner. – ShreevatsaR Jun 19 ’09 at 17:23
(Vector) graphics should be in pdf, when creating pdf latex documents. Though PNGs can be useful if the pdf file is very large. – Eduardo Leoni Aug 20 ’09 at 19:27
This doesn’t work on Ubuntu 13.04 (Raring), there are no packages for texlive 😦 How can I install texlive on Ubuntu 13.04 (Raring) ? – valentt Oct 21 ’13 at 20:23
@valentt This page suggests that texlive should be available (I don’t have a 13.04 box immediately to hand to test that this is the case) – David Gardner Oct 22 ’13 at 8:45
@valentt Actually I did have a 13.04 box around and tried this and an “apt-get install texlive” works fine for me on this version. Perhaps you are missing an apt repo? – David Gardner Oct 22 ’13 at 10:30

To get started with LaTeX on Linux, you’re going to need to install a couple of packages:

  1. You’re going to need a LaTeX distribution. This is the collection of programs that comprise the (La)TeX computer typesetting system. The standard LaTeX distribution on Unix systems used to be teTeX, but it has been superceded by TeX Live. Most Linux distributions have installation packages for TeX Live–see, for example, the package database entries for Ubuntu and Fedora.
  2. You will probably want to install a LaTeX editor. Standard Linux text editors will work fine; in particular, Emacs has a nice package of (La)TeX editing macros called AUCTeX. Specialized LaTeX editors also exist; of those, Kile (KDE Integrated LaTeX Environment) is particularly nice.
  3. You will probably want a LaTeX tutorial. The classic tutorial is “A (Not So) Short Introduction to LaTeX2e,” but nowadays the LaTeX wikibook might be a better choice.
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